When it comes to the topic of gay marriage, the Church is sitting across the table from the World saying, “I’ll see your gay marriage and raise you a pornography.” We’ve put on our best poker face and have stared unblinking into the eyes of the unbelieving. We’ve drawn the line. We’ve made our stance. The shades are on, but are we just bluffing?
As I consider this politically and spiritually charged topic a couple thoughts come to mind. Is it reasonable to expect those who don’t believe in God or His Word to value and follow it? I Cor. 2:14 states, “But the natural man receiveth not the things of the Spirit of God, for they are foolishness unto him; neither can he know them, because they are spiritually discerned.” In other words, the World will look at our Bible and say why should I follow that? It’s stupid! Don’t get me wrong; I believe Christians should be agents of change in the world, but that change can’t happen through a forced belief system. The Holy Spirit brings about change in the hearts of believers through the revelation of His Word. The job of believers as it relates to the world is to introduce them to The Changer.
This leads me to my second thought–are we bluffing? Many of us are sitting at the table pretending we’ve got a full house, four of a kind, or an ace in the hole, but we’re praying nobody calls our bluff. I recently saw some statistics relating to pornography and the church. According to a 2006 survey taken by Christianity Today 50 percent of all Christian men and 20 percent of Christian women say they are addicted to pornography. Addicted. Men, how can you watch a lesbian video on the internet and then demand the World abstain from homosexuality? Since 2006 we’ve only become more connected and our lives are more present on the internet than ever before, so I only wonder what those numbers look like for 2014.
I want to be absolutely clear on my stance on sex–any deviance from God’s design for sexual intimacy is a perversion. God’s plan for sex is for one man and one woman that are married to each other to share something so beautiful and so unifying that the essence of who they are becomes as one (Mark 10:8). This event is so miraculous that the two become physically “one” in the conception of a child, but it’s more than that. The spirits of both become so entwined that its not intended for them to separate (Mark 10:9).
Church, I do think sexual deviation is an issue in the world today, but the focus should be the Church. Change is necessary, but change begins with the household of God. It is the goal of the enemy to leave the Church weak, deflated, and powerless and I see pornography as one of his biggest weapons. But fear not, because His word says, “No weapon formed against us shall prosper.”
If you’re struggling with pornography I’d like to leave you with a couple tools.
- http://www.covenanteyes.com/ — filter / accountability software.
- http://x3watch.com/ — accountability software.
- http://www.settingcaptivesfree.com/ — Offer some online courses.
And lastly, if you’d like to just talk to someone I’d love to talk with you. You can contact me through my “Ask Me” page on this website: http://ta-lucas.com/?page_id=368